Comments on: I’m a little bummed- and The Punishment

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 23:55:00 +0000

Benjamin is my yeller. I confiscated all his favorite toys and now he has to earn them back. We started the color card system that they use at school at home. If he gets on red, no toy.

By: wendy

wendy — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 21:20:11 +0000

Don’t forget the old standby: take the door off the hinges. They HATE that! Can’t even get dressed in your own room, no privacy, no door slamming, siblings roaming in freely. Hate it. Worked with mine!

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By: Diamond

Diamond — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 15:27:26 +0000

“I informed her I was tired of fighting with her and I was officially refusing to do it anymore.”

I really think this was an important phrase. You let her know you weren’t doing it to be mean, you were doing it so you could be nice. And then you said you wanted to help her.

Good job.

By: Sabra

Sabra — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 08:02:29 +0000

My sister did this with Luca and Anthony. Very similar results and now all it takes is a threat to have it happen again. We may do this with the play room in the near future…

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By: Jessica G.

Jessica G. — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:06:54 +0000

I read about this tactic! Congrats to you for taking charge and not giving in to society’s “Let them be kids and run all over you while you serve their every whim.”

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By: Shanna

Shanna — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 03:56:20 +0000

Bravo!! I love this. Love it. You are a strong and brave mom to do this and, I believe, that your relationship with your daughter will be stronger and better for all of this. I applaud you.

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By: andrea

andrea — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:32:26 +0000

Thanks for sharing the follow up. I was wondering how it was working out.

By: Heather E. Sedlock

Heather E. Sedlock — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:48:35 +0000

I am sorry to hear it had to take THIS extreme measure to change the child’s behavior.

There is a program out there for particularly tough to deal with children (like those diagnosed with Asperger’s who like to argue and those with Oppositional Defiant Disorder.). It is called The Total Transformation Program.

I’m not trying to sell the program. But I used it myself when I reviewed it for one of my articles. My child, Thomas, was extremely defiant, rude, obnoxious and even abusive. He isn’t that anymore and I didn’t have to become my son’s jailer.

Although I do give you kudos for standing up to your daughter’s behavior It is never acceptable.

By: MAriah

MAriah — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:44:09 +0000

I did this too! Although my kid was 12 at the time, I made her earn everything back. She’s now 18 and an amazing girl. It’s been a long tough road, but that’s why it’s called tough love. If it was easy, it’d be caled something else.

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By: Veronica

Veronica — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 19:44:49 +0000

You are seriously a brilliant woman. Brilliant and brave and soooooo smart!