I don’t know how you do it. Steve has a busy month at work. That would be the understatement of the year. It’s 11:48 pm and he’s not going to be home for several hours. It’s been like this all week. It’s going to continue for the next couple of weeks. I’m not cut out for single motherhood. I’m grumpy and impatient and and and and…
So good job you women who do it alone. I don’t envy you, and I don’t know how you do it.
Amen. I wonder how my mom did it alone all those years.
Ditto… and another Amen. I am blessed by a wonderful husband who is a great dad and helps out so much. It really takes the two of us some days…
I’ve thought this a lot too. My husband just finished three years of job hell. He pulled more all nighters at his job than he did in college. My heart goes out to the moms that carry it alone always.
Well - I used to say “You just do what you have to do,” and dismiss praise of single motherdom… then one day I realized that you DON’T have to do it… I choose to keep a good house, a choose to have good times with my children, I choose to try to discipline appropriately, I choose to support them in their pursuit of music and other worthy activities, I choose to try to provide nutritious meals. And yeah - it’s not always easy BUT… if you have been in a bad marriage, you realize it is better to do it alone with the knowledge that you have chosen doing it alone over the bad marriage. When I was in my bad marriage I still had to do everything alone, but I also had the hurt and anger of the failed expectation that my husband would be helpful and kind… and also the pain of being criticized and told that most things I did were not good enough to make him happy. Does that make any sense?
I second that! I’ve been a “single” mom for about 5 weeks and I’m going nuts! I can’t wait until tomorrow when I have my husband back…at least on the weekends.
Hope- I don’t think you should ever discount how hard it is to parent by yourself. I think it’s got to be even harder when you aren’t only parenting by yourself- but parenting against the father of your children.
I hope you’re not thinking that I’m in any way judging women (like you) who’ve left bad marriages to parent alone- I think that takes strength and character to be willing to stand up and say that it’s not working and that you’re not being treated like you deserve and that you don’t want your children to be raised in that environment.
So yes, you’ve made perfect sense. Good job and stuff.
Yeah, I dont know how they do it either. Im on the brink of insanity and I have a husband on the weekends. I honestly think I would have a break down if I really was a single mom.
Oh I didn’t feel judged. I’m just saying “Praise away! I deserve it!”